The Poem That Helps Me Cope With the Challenges of BPD

For so many years I have struggled, as have so many others, but what I find works best for me as a daily affirmation to myself to keep on moving forward is the poem below. I don’t always get to write daily, and when I cannot, I do see a difference in my emotional health, so now I carry a …

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When I Was Finally Diagnosed With Borderline Personality Disorder

I have been to multiple doctors, taken a cocktail of medications and participated in therapy for a year, but no one saw it. Despite my symptoms, the places I was receiving treatment from were so focused on getting me in and out the door that they failed to realize the truth behind my mental illness. So I did my own research, …

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How Low Self-Esteem Impacts My Borderline Personality Disorder

Low self-esteem can be behind a lot of mental illness. It certainly is with mine. When I was struggling with an eating disorder, I thought that maybe if I weighed less I could feel better about myself and that people would like me more. With my borderline personality disorder, I have deep fears that everyone will abandon me. I don’t …

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How to Love a Borderline

Why do I feel like this isn’t real An unimportant part in a bad deal A secret you hide from your world A second choice, never a first You say you want me but you shy away From anything real, is that really OK? I’m patient and waiting, just trying to understand What goes on in your head, give me …

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New Study Shows Anxiety Disorders And Depression Are Linked To Narcissistic Abuse

Anxiety and depression are two very common mental disorders that can have a very major negative impact on someone’s life. While some people are more prone to anxiety and depression than others, circumstances in life can also increase the chances that someone experiences either or both mental conditions. One situation that could increase the chances that someone suffers from anxiety and depression …

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Kafka’s Remarkable Letter to His Abusive and Narcissistic Father

His litany of indictments is doubly harrowing in light of what psychologists have found in the decades since — that our early limbic contact with our parents profoundly shapes our character, laying down the wiring for emotional habits and patterns of connecting that greatly influence what we bring to all subsequent relationships in life, either expanding or contracting our capacity for “positivity …

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5 ways to counteract the narcissist’s gaslighting

The first step to counteract gaslighting is becoming aware that’s what’s happening. The pickle is that if you are a target of gaslighting the principle symptom is mistrust of your take on reality – so how do you know if you are being gaslit or not? Rest assured gorgeous ones, everything you need to cut through the fog of gaslighting …

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Is There a Positive Side to Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), also known as emotionally unstable personality disorder (EUPD), is a serious condition. It is also a heavily stigmatized one. BPD is probably among the most stigmatized of mental illnesses, partly because of the myths and stereotypes surrounding it. Some people tend to demonize those with BPD, labeling sufferers as manipulative, unstable, and dangerous individuals with Jekyll and Hyde personas. Furthermore, …

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Meet My Monster: Borderline Personality Disorder

I’m writing this in the midst of a borderline personality disorder (BPD) episode. I’m sitting at my laptop, tears streaming down my cheeks, painfully aware of what feels like a hollow cavity where my heart is. My throat is tight; my head is spinning. All I can seem to think about is what I should be doing: writing my book. And …

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18 ‘Impolite’ Things People Do Because of Borderline Personality Disorder

When you’ve lived with borderline personality disorder (BPD) for a while, you become aware of the unique things you do because of it. Things like “splitting,” experiencing intense emotions or mood swings and dissociation are mainstays for many folks with BPD — but they aren’t the only ways it can manifest. Sometimes BPD can make people do things that are often described (and misunderstood) as being “impolite.” Maybe you …

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17 Habits of People With Borderline Personality Disorder

There are individual “quirks” and traits that make you, you. There are also the things you do because of borderline personality disorder (BPD). While personality traits and personality disorder behaviors can blend together sometimes, to an outsider it’s not always clear which of these “habits” are driven by BPD and which aren’t. Whether a habit makes you seem “manipulative” (asking for constant …

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