25 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Fear Abandonment

There are many reasons why people may struggle with fear of abandonment. If you’ve experienced it personally, you may be intimately aware with the impact it can have on daily functioning. Maybe you grew up experiencing emotional abuse, and secure relationship attachments weren’t part of your upbringing. Maybe you’ve lost someone important to you and are still mourning the loss of that person in your …

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What a Breakup Feels Like When You Live With Borderline Personality Disorder

Breakups are different for everyone. So many mixed emotions, tears and in some cases, relief or calm. Any emotion felt during this time is valid, and it may be different for you each time you experience it. Breaking up when you have borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be a traumatic experience, upsetting for all parties involved. It’s hard to fully …

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I’m Afraid My Mental Illness Makes Me Impossible to Love

I’m scared my mental illness makes me unlovable. It’s a statement I hate writing and a sentence I hate thinking about. But it’s how I feel. And as my depression and anxiety become more chronic, my thoughts about falling in love become more negative and my belief of the chances of it happening for me start to grow slim. While I know this is a small …

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The Worst Part Of BPD Is That It Makes Me Feel Like I’m Difficult To Love.

By Molly Burford Trigger warning: This article makes brief references to self-harm and suicidal ideation. The first time I stumbled across the term “borderline personality disorder,” also known as BPD, I was 19. I found a book my mom had left out on the kitchen counter called Get Me Out Of Here: My Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder. A memoir by Rachel Reiland, …

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Emotional Invalidation During Childhood May Cause BPD

Key Takeaways Emotional invalidation happens when someone makes you feel like your emotions are not real or important. Children with strong emotions may become more upset if their feelings are ignored or dismissed. It’s hard to know for sure if emotional invalidation causes BPD because research is often based on people’s memories. Many people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have had experiences …

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When You Don’t Know Which Version of You Is the Real You.

On a journey to finding and being myself, i made myself a step by step process and it’s going pretty good. The only problem is theres 3 different parts of myself and i don’t know which one to accept as the true me because i keep finding faults in each one of them i have the 1st extrocerted version where …

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18 ‘Red Flags’ That Might Mean You’re Struggling With ‘Quiet’ BPD

If you’re familiar with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you might also be familiar with a less-discussed manifestation of the condition — colloquially referred to as “quiet BPD.” Folks who live with quiet BPD experience many of the same hallmark symptoms of “classic” BPD, just in a way that’s not as obvious on the outside. While someone with classic BPD typically “acts …

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The Most Severe Personality Disorder Weakens Empathic Brain Activity

Why people with the most severe personality disorder find it difficult to have romantic relationships and friendships. People with borderline personality disorder have deficits in brain regions related to empathy, research finds. The finding helps explain why people with borderline personality disorder have unstable moods. They also often have trouble maintaining relationships with others. Dr Brian Haas, the study’s lead …

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Dear Society: No, I Don’t Need to Forgive My Abusers

I’ve been thinking about something that was said to me about “getting over” the sexual abuse and rape I endured and how I “need to forgive” and “put it behind me” and “stop being a victim.” • What is PTSD? I interpreted this as, “Shut up, and figure out how to accept and ingest all the blame and shame yourself, because it makes …

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How to Describe Borderline Personality Disorder for Those Who Don’t Understand

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a severe, complex illness that is marked by frequent mood changes, an unstable self-image and intense, unbalanced relationships. While this is the basic description for BPD, the complexity of this disorder is extreme. There are nine possible criteria for diagnosing BPD, but an individual only needs to present five of the nine criteria in order to be diagnosed. This means that there …

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How Will the #MeToo Movement Be Affected by the Amber Heard Case?

It seems like the entire world has watched the Johnny Depp vs. Amber Heard defamation trial over the past several weeks. And, after three long days of deliberation, the jury finally reached a verdict on Wednesday. While some are calling the results a “mixed verdict,” one thing is definitely true: the jury decided that Amber Heard “knew her claims of abuse were false” when …

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The Amber Heard/Johnny Depp Verdict Is in and the Winner Is… Nobody

The Johnny Depp vs. Amber Heard defamation trial has finally ended in a somewhat split verdict. While Depp won the larger settlement of $15 million in damages and Heard won $2 million in damages from her countersuit, the real winner in this farce of a trial is… nobody. • What is PTSD? I suppose the level of notoriety of the two …

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4 Celebrities With Borderline Personality Disorder Who Make Me Feel Seen

May is borderline personality disorder awareness month, and as someone who struggles with quiet/discouraged borderline personality disorder, I love spreading awareness and education on this personality disorder. There are still so many stereotypes and such a strong stigma following this mental health condition, but awareness is increasing. While there aren’t a plethora of borderline personality disorder activists or stars who have spoken out about their experiences with …

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