What is “uncontrollable anger” in borderline personality disorder? Sometimes called “borderline rage,” uncontrollable anger in borderline personality disorder (BPD) is when someone experiences a level of anger more extreme than is warranted by the situation that triggered it. BPD rage occurs most often in the context of relationships. While many of us struggle to feel (and identify!) our emotions in general, there’s one …
Read More »21 Things People With Borderline Personality Disorder Wish Their Friends Understood
The very nature of borderline personality disorder (BPD) can make relationships difficult to manage. Symptoms include unstable personal relationships and efforts to avoid being abandoned, coupled with a distorted self-image and impulsive behavior. But that doesn’t mean people with BPD are unable to make friends, and it certainly doesn’t mean they can’t form deep relationships. In fact, the opposite can …
Read More »4 Ways Borderline Personality Disorder Affects My Life
I am diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). It affects four main areas of my life: 1. Emotional irregularity. BPD is exhausting and confusing to live with. I’m never sure whether to trust my emotions, if they’re justified or if I’m just overreacting. My moods are mostly always triggered by something in my environment, but if something good happens five …
Read More »Why Anger Can Be a Difficult Emotion for Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder
People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can often have tremendous issues with anger — both expressing it and being the recipient of it. They can often go to extreme lengths to make people happy in order to avoid having people get angry at them. The flip side of that is that they themselves can go into a drop-dead rage at the drop of …
Read More »Why Starting a New Relationship Can Be Difficult When You Live With Borderline Personality Disorder
From personal experience, I know my borderline personality disorder (BPD) is at its worst when I’m romantically involved with someone. This knowledge quickly turned into one of my biggest fears after I managed to detach myself from my ex and move on. It turned into a fear because I was suddenly able to experience life without the constant burden of …
Read More »When Borderline Personality Disorder Makes You a Time-Consuming Friend
To all of my friends, I’m sorry. I fully appreciate that at the best of times, I can be an utter pain in the butt, and at the worst of times… well, let’s not go there! I am currently on the road to a borderline personality disorder (BPD) diagnosis — a diagnosis that at first I pushed away, but after …
Read More »How Borderline Personality Disorder Makes a Breakup Feel Like the End of the World
“You were the happiest kid,” my mom commented as we flipped through the pages of my fourth-grade diary. There was no doubt about that. Every entry was full of musings only a carefree child could have. But the cheerful anecdotes about playground politics, crushes and secret handshakes turned into emotional ramblings about the sudden betrayal by my friends. I wrote …
Read More »When You Feel Like the Personification of the Phrase ‘Too Much’
My parents at some point must have felt so lucky, that their firstborn daughter would waltz up to stages “too much” — to receive awards, do speeches, perform or present. But when they tried to scold me for the little things, they couldn’t understand why I was always banging my skull against the wall. They didn’t know their words were …
Read More »I Can Have Fun With My Borderline Personality Disorder
I can have fun with my borderline personality disorder (BPD). That statement is not, “I can have fun in spite of having borderline personality disorder.” I can have fun with the disorder. The words even sound wrong in my head, not because I do not believe in them — because I do — but because I cannot imagine anyone truly believing I …
Read More »What It’s Like to Be Suicidal (for People Who’ve Never Felt Like This)
If you’ve never felt this: I am thankful. I am thankful beyond words you don’t know the feeling, the overwhelming weight and darkness. I am thankful you’ve never known this abundance of nothing, this sense that there’s nothing left, this feeling that your whole body has been emptied of everything that made you you, and has been replaced by a thick …
Read More »When Anxiety Presents as Anger, Not Fear
I have been anxious for as long as I can remember. I grew from an awkward and anxious child to an awkward and anxious adult. As a teenager I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression, but it was only as an adult that I learned more about what it actually means to be anxious. Having anxiety doesn’t just mean being nervous or worrying. When …
Read More »Why Not Working Is Crucial to Recovering From My Mental Illness
A lot of shame and stigma often surrounds the concept of not working due to mental illness. I’ve commonly heard the opinion expressed that work is good for mental health: the routine, the social aspect, the sense of accomplishment and so on. While I absolutely agree that for some people this is true, it is also a key part of …
Read More »An Introduction to Life With Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline. It’s a label that sticks. An image that comes with a whole package of prejudices and assumptions – Winona Rider in a white gown, wandering the bleak corridors of an upstate asylum. A young girl crying alone on a bed. An unstable young woman with wild and unpredictable emotions, a person who is hard to get close to, someone …
Read More »A Shower Is Not Just a Shower When You Live With Depression
I showered today. To you, it may not seem like a big deal, but to me, it marks being able to actually start my day, even if that means starting my day at 2 p.m. It means finally getting out of bed, finally making strides to get out of my apartment. It means finally stopping with the mindless scrolling on my …
Read More »13 Reasons People Didn’t Realize They Were Being Abused as Kids Until Adulthood
Though I definitely grew up in an abusive household, it was only within the last year or so that I attached the word “abuse” to my upbringing. This realization brought on a cocktail of emotions, including pain, anger, sadness and perhaps most devastating — confusion. How did I not know I was abused? Recently, I heard perfect metaphor to describe why I …
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How to Survive Christmas If You Live With Borderline Personality Disorder
“What’s the matter with you? It’s Christmas!” Heard that one a few too many times? …
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How to Survive Christmas If You Live With Borderline Personality Disorder
“What’s the matter with you? It’s Christmas!” Heard that one a few too many times? …
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