Many people who have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have very poor communication skills. For many, their emotional development arrested at a very young age and they simply did not learn good communication. In other cases, their family of origin did not practice assertive communication skills. You can’t learn something from someone who doesn’t know it either. Assertiveness is an …
Read More »5 Signs That Show Me I’m in BPD Recovery
It will be some time before I can consider myself recovered from borderline personality disorder (BPD) — if ever. I may always have more intense emotions than most people, but I am better than I was. Here are some of the ways I can tell I am recovering. 1. I’m writing fewer self-deprecating diary entries. I haven’t written one of …
Read More »Experiencing Physical Pain Because of BPD’s Heightened Emotions
I don’t believe you understand the intensity of the pain I feel as it’s ripping apart my soul. It’s like I’m ripping my own chest open with bare hands, claw marks across my chest, and someone’s grabbing my heart and trying to tear it apart. Like I’m sitting in the darkness, on the floor, clawing at the walls. Like the …
Read More »What It Means to Get a Diagnosis of ‘Quiet’ Borderline Personality Disorder
I’m assuming many of you are shocked to hear I have a disorder with the word “quiet” in the name since I’m not quiet by any stretch of the imagination, but it’s true. And if I then say I have borderline personality disorder (BPD), many of you would again be shocked, but (again) it is true. Most people, when thinking …
Read More »10 Things People Say to Me as a Man With Borderline Personality Disorder
The last 12 months have been a whirlwind for me. I’ve gone from being diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety to being told I have borderline personality disorder (BPD). I’m still not sure how I feel about it. I have spent four weeks in a mental health institution, I have made multiple attempts on my life in 18 months and I …
Read More »Sometimes I Wish I Had No Feelings at All
When those of us with borderline personality disorder (BPD) feel our emotions, we feel them so intensely it feels inhumane. On top of that, there is a misconception about us — that we lack empathy — but that couldn’t be the further from the truth. Sometimes, I feel so bad for others that feeling bad for others even triggers my depression. Dealing with …
Read More »5 Things to Know This Holiday About Your Loved One With a Mental Illness
The holidays showed up as if they were driving at warp speed. Invitations for family gatherings and holiday parties are starting to arrive with more guaranteed to come. For some, it will be a rush of joy and happiness as they bounce from celebration to celebration, laughing with friends and spending time with loved ones. People who haven’t seen each …
Read More »Borderline Personality Disorder Makes Me Live With My Heart on My Sleeve
I don’t mean to live with my heart on my sleeve. I’ve lost a lot of people in my life. Quite a few have come and gone, but that’s just life, right? It’s not the end of the world, right? Sure. Of course it’s not literally the end of the world — that’s absurd. But it is the end of …
Read More »25 ‘Hyperfixation’ Habits People Use to Cope With Mental Illness
What is hyperfixation? Hyperfixation is being completely immersed in something — whether it be a video game, movie/TV fandom culture or a hobby like crocheting. While typically associated with ADHD and autism, people with mental illness may also experience hyperfixation. How do you you use hyperfixation to cope with mental illness? So why do I hyperfixate? Why can’t I just like …
Read More »A Day in My Life With Borderline Personality Disorder
Quite often people have asked me what it is like living with my borderline personality disorder (BPD). They really have very little idea in regards to what it actually means. They are under the impression I am “borderline,” so I am “sort of” in the middle of having a personality disorder. Not a full blown disorder, but not quite “normal” …
Read More »Listen to People With Borderline Personality Disorder
People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) aren’t “bad.” They aren’t “attention seeking” either, as some therapists may think. They aren’t manipulative. Many do not rage. In fact, a lot have wonderful relationships. Almost all have childhood trauma. I haven’t met one without it. Some may try to differentiate it from complex post-traumatic disorder. I do not. Rather, I see this population as a group of individuals …
Read More »15 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder
I decided today was the time to talk about something important that has affected me for almost as long as I can remember. Often, I discuss my depression and anxiety and I’ve even touched upon my PTSD, but it is incredibly rare that I talk about the mental health issue that possibly has the biggest hold on my life. I …
Read More »When Borderline Personality Disorder Leaves You Wondering Who You Are
Who am I? At this very moment, I am a self-absorbed, mentally ill artist making work about my own psychological pain. I always wanted to be special, surely everyone wants that? All you need is to discover your own specific “brand” of special. I soon noticed that being special due to talent brings jealousy, and being special due to hard …
Read More »Netflix’s ‘Insatiable’ Season 1, Episode 9 Recap: ‘Bad Kitty’
This episode contains references to disordered eating that may be triggering to people with or in recovery from eating disorders. Episode nine of “Insatiable” has a bit of a Halloween vibe, but one thing is evident: Patty does not know how to take responsibility for her actions. Everything has an excuse or is blamed on a literal demon. The episode starts …
Read More »We Need to Talk About How ‘Joker’ Treats Mental Illness and Violence
I’m probably the last person you would expect to see “Joker.” I’ve never cared for R-rated movies and violence. I am the mother of someone who battles a significant mental illness and I anticipated, based on the trailers, that this would rip me apart. So, I braced myself as I walked into the theater alone with pen and notebook in hand. Admittedly, …
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How to Survive Christmas If You Live With Borderline Personality Disorder
“What’s the matter with you? It’s Christmas!” Heard that one a few too many times? …
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How to Survive Christmas If You Live With Borderline Personality Disorder
“What’s the matter with you? It’s Christmas!” Heard that one a few too many times? …
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