At one point or another, we may have come in contact with someone who thinks only of themselves, and who wastes no time in manipulating others to get what they want. Narcissists take great pleasure in putting others down just for their own sadistic pleasures, and what’s worse, they enjoy doing so.
Narcissists can say one things and really mean something else entirely, but its up to you to read meaning into whatever it is they are saying and get the hidden message. Here are 19 things a narcissist will say to you and what they really mean.
1 . YOU’RE INSANE
When a narcissist says you are crazy or insane, what they actually mean is that they enjoy driving you nuts and watching you react to it. It simply means they enjoy pushing you over the edge and watching you battle with your anger. That way, no one gets to listen to you because everyone thinks you are an angry and bitter person.
2. I LOVE YOU
Meaning: Bottom line, I love the fact that I control you. Hearing the words “I love you” from a narcissist is tricky. What they actually mean is that they love the fact that they can manipulate you. They love the fact that they own you. They love the fact that they can use you and get rid of you quite easily. And what makes it more painful is that you trust them and open up to them.
3. YOU WOULD NEVER FIND SOMEONE LIKE ME
Meaning: Of course you can, I just don’t want you to. The hidden meaning to this is clear enough. There are several people out there who would treat you better than I do, I just don’t want you to find them. It’s better you keep running after me.
4. I DON’T TALK ABOUT MY PAST
Meaning: If I let you into my past, then everything I have worked to build will be proven a lie. I have worked hard to be perfect, I cannot let you see my flaw from my past.
5. IT’S NOT MY FAULT YOU GOT HURT, IT’S YOURS
Meaning: I blame you for getting hurt. You forced me to abuse you in some way. You should have avoided it by simply doing what I said. You deserved what you got.
6. I’M SORRY YOU FEEL THAT WAY
Meaning: I’m not sorry for what I did, I’m simply sorry I got caught. When a narcissist says this to you, they are sorry that they are held accountable for what they did, they are not sorry for what they did.
7. YOU’RE OVERREACTING
Meaning: it’s perfectly normal for you to react the way you are reacting to what i may have done. I’m simply enjoying torturing you emotionally and goading you into doubting yourself and watching you battle with your inner trust.
8. MY EXES WERE ALL CRAZY
Meaning: I drove them insane. I tricked them into reacting badly by constantly provoking and manipulating them, and then I used their reaction against them, to show the world how unstable they are.
9. YOU’RE SO JEALOUS
Meaning: I love watching you fight and compete for my attention. I love how that makes me feel powerful, desirable and in control. I don’t mind getting you upset or riled up in public to get the attention I deserve. Even if it paints you as the bad person.
10. YOU ARE INSECURE
Meaning: I like making you feel worthless. I am in charge here, and if putting you down makes me feel happy, I’ll do it without hesitation.
11. IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU
Meaning: It is all about me and me alone. The attention has to be all on me at all times. Do not try to steal the spotlight from me, or you’ll pay for it.
12. YOU’RE DELUSIONAL
Meaning: I do not like the fact that you know I’m wrong. I need you to get off my back, and to do that, I need to make you doubt yourself and your judgement. I will make everyone believe you are unstable.
13. I’M WIRED THAT WAY, TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT
Meaning: I know I act horribly, but I want you to overlook my flaws and act like I’m the most amazing person ever.
14. I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT
Meaning: I’m pretending not to either understand what you are trying to say, or I’m pretending not to remember. Either way, I simply want you to drop the topic.
15. NO ONE WOULD BELIEVE YOU
Meaning: I have spent enough time making people believe lies about you. No matter how you choose to look at it, you have no support from anyone because I have isolated you from everyone. It’s my word against yours.
16. WE CAN STILL BE FRIENDS
Meaning: I don’t like you anymore, but I would rather keep you on standby than loose you totally. You may be of some use in the future. Besides, I don’t like losing personal toys.
17. CAN YOU JUST FORGET ABOUT THE PAST?
Meaning: Yes I screwed up, just get over it and lets go back to the part where I’m right and I always matter. Stop making such a big deal out of it.
18. YOU DON’T LOVE ME ENOUGH
Meaning: If you cannot put up with my issues and abuses, then you do not love me enough. I want to constantly abuse you and manipulate you, and i want you to take it all because you’re supposed to love me.
19. I CANNOT DEAL WITH THIS/YOU
Meaning: you are trying to take over my life and I cannot allow that. You have no right being in charge, it’s my job. You have no right calling me out for what I’ve done, I’m always right. And if you won’t give in, I can’t deal with you.