“Narcissists are consumed with maintaining a shallow false self to others. They’re emotionally crippled souls that are addicted to attention. Because of this, they use a multitude of games, to receive adoration. Sadly, they are the most ungodly of God’s creations because they don’t show remorse for their actions, take steps to make amends or have empathy for others. They are morally bankrupt.” ― Shannon L. Alder
That quote holds a lot of truth about the personality of the narcissist. These people are highly toxic, and it’s better to stay away from them. However, that is not always possible since they are very good at hiding their true personality.
To help you find out if there’s such an individual in your life below we’ve outlined 13 weaknesses of the narcissist’s character.
1. Superiority to others
First of all, narcissists think they are superior to all other people. They consider themselves the best at everything. They get that feeling of superiority even when they are wrong. On top of that, if they fail or make a mistake, they expect to receive understanding. They could even blame someone else for their mistakes to justify their behavior.
Narcissists think they are perfect that’s why they want everything and everyone around them to be perfect too. They expect it, especially from their close friends and their family. That makes the relationship with a such a person tough as you’ll have to meet expectations hardly anyone could.
3. They use people
Narcissists use others to achieve their own goals. However, once the narcissist has got what they want they will most probably try to get rid of the person who’s helped them. Unless they need this person’s assistance in the future of course.
Narcissists try to control others by manipulating them. Convincing people to do what they want certainly makes it easier for the narcissist to achieve their aims. On top of that, the narcissist needs to feel in control of others. And there’s no better way than manipulating them into doing what he or she says.
5. Never take responsibility
Although narcissists try to impose control over others and make them act the way they want, they seldom take responsibility for the results. Unless, of course, everything goes the way they’ve planned it and their goal is achieved. When things don’t go as planned or fail, the narcissist would blame others for this outcome and never themselves. Most often, the narcissist blames their closest ones – family or friends.
6. They lack empathy
Narcissists are almost deprived of empathy because they are extremely selfish and would never try to walk in someone else’s shoes. That’s why they are unable to understand other people’s feelings. Narcissists view things only from their perspective and think that other people share the same point of view as them.
One truth that few people know is that narcissists are full of fears. But they try to hide them. They’re afraid of being mocked at, hurt, or rejected. One of their fears is that people might see their imperfections and judge them. They hardly ever trust anyone for the same reason. Usually, narcissists would try to mask the fact they are afraid by blaming others for their reactions.
8. They can’t create emotional connections
They lack empathy and constantly need some reassurance of their perfection. Because of this narcissists can’t truly love or create emotional bonds with others. They don’t know what it is to give. And that is the reason why they don’t have true friends.
Narcissists might try to hide they are manipulating you by using certain phrases. Their words usually sound judgmental or belittling and aim to make you act according to the narcissist’s plan. If you are often accused of being a drama queen or being too sensitive it could be a red flag. Another worrying thing to hear might be that you can’t live without your narcissistic partner, so you need to do what they tell you.
The term “gaslighting” was taken from a 1944 film called “Gaslight.” In this movie, a man manipulates his wife into believing she is going crazy. Since then this word has been used to explain how some people gain control over others. The manipulator tries to twist the facts to make someone else feel like they are losing their mind.
As all other manipulators narcissists also use this tactic successfully. So if your partner, friend or colleague is constantly telling you lies and trying to twist reality and to make you doubt your own judgments you should end your relationship with them.
Many narcissists are thin-skinned and have no tolerance for criticism. They can’t stand situations when they are held responsible for what they’ve done either. When criticized, the narcissist most probably would fight, deny or blame someone else for their mistakes.
12. Their opinion and interests change very often
Narcissists’ interests change all the time. Consequently, they can’t stay focused on one single goal for a very long time. They tend to change their opinion and aims very often. What’s more, they always expect perfection which makes the narcissist unsatisfied with most of the things and people in their life.
13. They don’t respect other people’s personal space
Last but not least, narcissists violate other people’s personal space very often. Or in other words, they don’t respect someone else’s feelings or boundaries. For example, they could borrow items or money from someone and ignore the fact they have to return them. Narcissists also break promises frequently. And show little remorse about that.
These are the most common traits of the people who belong to this group of toxic individuals. Hopefully, the list provided here could help you identify the narcissists in your life and stay away from them.